A few weeks ago, I was very upset about something unimportant (thought is was important to me at the time), and I called my mom to complain about it. She ended up laughing about something I said, and that deeply hurt my feelings. Admittedly, I was in some strange emotional state, and hugely overreacted. I hung up on her, and a bit later, received an apology text. By that time I realized that she certainly didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and that my reaction was not particularly warranted. Essentially, I was over it. I wasn’t mad or hurt anymore. But instead of replying letting her know that I forgave her, I sent a mean text back, telling her how much she had hurt my feelings. Even though I had forgiven her, some part of me didn’t want her to know that yet. I still wanted her to feel bad that she had made me upset. That was immature, selfish, mean–all things that I do not want to be.
Challenge #157: Give yourself adequate time to overcome hurt feelings, but as soon as you do, let the person know that you forgive them. Knowing that you have hurt someone you love is such a horrible feeling, so if you are no longer hurt, tell them. You are not upset anymore, there is no reason for them to be.
P.s…mom, if you read this and even remember this event, I’m sorry and I love you.