I’m still sitting in this dorm—and there are two girls here that may or may not know I am present. I don’t really know the girls—they moved in this year. One just yelled to the other “I hate my hair! I know I’m my own worst critic, but I hate when the wind makes my hair look like this!”
The Washington Winds can certainly blow someone’s hair into a mess—but that is not the important part of this common tantrum. We truly are our own worst critics. To an extent, this is a good thing. It allows us to push ourselves farther that someone else may. Competition with the self can be the most intense. But it is important as well to recognize and appreciate yourself, to stop criticizing for a few moments.
Challenge #15, January 15, 2011: When you notice yourself being critical of yourself, telling yourself you could have done better or that you hate your hair/stomach/muscles/dimples, change your thinking. Give yourself a compliment. It doesn’t have to be about that thing you hate—I don’t want you to lie to yourself. Compliment yourself on something you really do love about yourself. Turn your attention to something positive, something you are proud of. And then remind yourself that someone out there loves you for those exact freckles that you hate.